Wow it has been a while and I wasn't sure I was really done, but...
I went through 3 Motarola Atrix phones and 2 HTC phones before I finally got one that worked :-(
The good news is that I have an HTC Inspire 4g just like Squeej!
I have rooted it
I have installed ICS (The specific inspire build is Ice Cold Sandwich by LorD ClockaN)
Everything but hd video recording seems to work.
I have tried a couple of other roms,
MIUI was pretty good once I fixed the sound issues, but I kept getting FCs all over the place
Cyanogenmod 7 is my next favorite but then I miss my ICS too much so Ice Cold Sandwich it is.
Thanks for listening...